We’ve all been there. The relationship is going strong and steady, and then one day, it begins to slip away.
You notice it first in the little things. Your man begins to drift away, becoming less and less interested in what you have to say in your life and in your lives together as a couple. He starts to act distant.
The phone calls and text messages become less and less frequent, less and less urgent. Nothing you do brings him back. It feels like he’s lost the drive and passion to continue with the relationship.
The hard truth is, sometimes relationships just come to an end. There may be no specific reason, and you both may be partially at fault for the failure, or neither one of you may be to blame. This happens, and there’s not always something to be done about it.
But! There are also times when love can be rekindled, and the relationship can not only be salvaged, but started completely anew. If you’re not yet ready to give up on your relationship, there are a number of steps you can take to renew his interest.
First and foremost, it’s completely natural for men to pull away from relationships from time to time, so don’t start blaming yourself. Let’s examine what to do when your man starts to pull away.
Look, it shouldn’t be any secret that men like to pursue and chase. It’s hardwired into every strand of male DNA.
If you’ve been there for every little thing that he’s wanted, if you’ve placed yourself at his complete beck and call, it may have been completely counterproductive. He might take it all for granted, and subsequently, feel bored by it. If there’s no challenge, chances are he’ll start to lose interest.
So how can you combat this when your man starts to pull away? Be challenging and withdraw. Create a little space and tension for him. Make him work for your time and attention.
If you’re always there when he calls, don’t be. Don’t pick up the phone or reply to his texts immediately. Make him wait. Be busy and do your own thing. Have a life outside of him.
Once you’ve put the fear of losing you into his mind, you’ll be amazed how quickly things can turn around.
2. Give Him Space And Remind Him Of The Good Times
Send him messages that remind him of the amazing experiences the two of you have shared together. Don’t pressure him about what’s wrong or try to force him to explain why he’s pulling away. Instead, give him space. Focus on the things you admire most about him.
Remind him that you’re his best friend. Not directly, of course, but through subtle hints and allusions to past experiences. It may just help to reawaken his heart, and open his eyes to what he has in front of him.
Remember, there is immense power in your words, and the words you choose can strengthen your relationship as long as you express your feelings without blaming him. If you need help figuring out exactly what to say, try some of Kelsey Diamond’s Obsession Phrases.
3. Don’t Become Needy And Desperate
When your man starts to pull away, don’t let worry cause you to become needy and desperate. It may just be a phase, and he may just need some time to figure things out on his own.
What you don’t want to do is panic and allow all of those negative thoughts to start making you crazy. If you do, it will manifest in your behavior towards him, and if there really is a problem, it will only make things worse.
So when he pulls away, take it easy, and keep calm. Remember your own self-worth is not dependent upon whether or not he chooses to stay with you. Keep self-assured and remain confident, and you can attract him back to you.